Monday 21st June: 4 days until Red Nose Day

When I look back on my minuscule experience in the use of drugs in my late teens and early 20s, I remember my friends and I being stupidly clandestine about the act of making a purchase. (Not that I was ever party to a purchase, because my friends knew I would be useless at that and I would stuff it up. I didn't even know the language to initiate the interaction and I never learnt the correct language, even as a drug and alcohol counsellor). Some people I know have continued to smoke regularly into their thirties, but for them it seems drug purchases are no longer a covert operation, and more like one more thing on the shopping list with the milk and bread. Back in our 20s though I remember a lot of innuendo and cloak and dagger language, totally unnecessary for a bunch of middle class uni students trying to buy a single-use amount of cannibas from one of the many suppliers around the campus.


Now that we are in our late 30s, is it my imagination or do we now talk the same way about our marriage counsellors? Why is that? Are our lives so lacking in mystery that we need to invent it? Do we all feel like we are predictable and one-dimensional? If we need mystery, wouldn't lessons in pole dancing be cheaper and easier to organise?


I have heard that in Australia the rate of relationships that end within 5 years of the death of a child is as high as 70%, although some recent research suggests the rate is much lower at around 20%. Either way, Matt and I have already lost way too much to be cocky about what we have, so we have sought a referee for some of our relationship arguments that are on the repeat setting. I am thinking of it as primary health care for our marriage, kind of like an immunisation shot to stop our relationship getting tetanus.


So like I said I'm not saying this is something I know about personally. I'm not in regular contact with this person myself, I'm just saying I know someone who knows someone who is contact with this person and I hear that they are worth the effort. So if you find yourself in the situation where you need to contact someone who does this sort of thing for you, you could call Charlotte Ashford at Unifam in Bolton st Newie, ph 4925 6000. I hear she's good. Not that I know from my own experience, you understand.


More importantly, this Friday 25th is Red Nose Day, the annual fund raiser for SIDS and Kids. Please think of us and buy a red nose, toy, pen etc when you see one.

http://www.rednoseday.com.au/

Tonight is our local memorial service for people who have lost babies, run by SIDS and Kids. Matt will be going to represent our family.

This is funny:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MmXA-XYISzc&feature=channel

And this is funny and freaky. If you look under popular posts my favourites are 'Lazer cat' and 'The cat's pyjamas'.

http://awkwardfamilypetphotos.com/